5/20/2013 1:34:00 PM
Lead Your Family Like Jesus
Lead Your Family Like Jesus: Powerful Parenting Principles from the Creator of Families
The title caught my attention and then I was really intrigued by the authors since I had been reading Ken Blanchard for years, first while in management and later as college instructor in management. While he gained his fame with One Minute Manager his work in management and leadership have inspired me over the years. I started following Tricia Goyer on FaceBook and enjoy her writings on Christian women and find the combination with the management team very thought provoking.
Most of us don’t like to think about managing our families but someone has to step up to lead the family. Using a combination of management and leadership principles this team of writers use the leadership teaching of Jesus to challenge us to lead our families like Jesus.
Opening with a call to lead by serving others the rest of the book is divided into four domains that we need to turn over to the ways of Jesus, our heart, head, hand and habits. You will be challenged to examine your values, viewpoint, what you actually do and to refocus your life.
Have you ever given any thought to what really lasts in life? What are those things that seem so important that after we have had them for a period of time we wonder why they were important to us? What we carry in our hearts and in our relationships is what will really last even beyond our life and if we focus on those things we have the chance to make a difference in others’ lives as well. It is the heart of Jesus that we are to mold our life after and learn to reflect him to our family.
We are called to reflect on who we are and whose we are. We are created to ultimately please God. The question is are you willing to give up control and let God take over. It is important that we break the cycles that keep us from living God’s way. We really need to spend some time examining ourselves and decide if we are more concerned how we look in the eyes of others or in the eyes of God. True worship requires that we keep our eyes on God and not ourselves.
There is a section on family values that remind us that Jesus called his followers from their normal work but to be a new kind of fisherman. Many of us are worried that God is calling us to change everything about us when what He wants is to use our skills for His purposes. We are reminded that our two main priorities are to love God with all our heart, mind and soul and our neighbor as ourselves. The real challenge is to translate those values into behaviors.
Life and leadership are all about choices. We are teaching our kids to make choices by the way we live. All of life is about value conflicts and we are required to match our values what you believe. Then we need to live them out. You will be ask to think about what happens after an action occurs being more important than what happens before. There are no mistakes in your family, only learning opportunities.
Jesus didn’t waste any time on nonessentials but worked diligently to use the time he had without panicking. Life is more about what you give than what you get – more about serving than being served. Each of us should be find and use a mentor to help us make good decisions in life. We are reminded that marriage is for a life-time and childrearing is for a season. Coaching is the most important servant-leadership part of child-rearing. If you are leading your family like Jesus you will be committed to serving others in the family by putting them before yourself.
Ultimately the goal must be to follow Jesus! As leaders in our family we must model obedience and that starts by studying and applying the principle and teachings of Jesus from the scriptures. We must schedule time with God and build relationships that will build our understanding and faith. This will lead to the ability to forgive and rebuild and strengthen the relationships with our family.
Men and women both will be ask to struggle with their perspective roles in the family and to put their faith in Jesus as the model and leader of your life.